Not too long ago, I had an experience with someone that called me "stupid" because she assumed I didn't want to listen to her way of living. I would have had no problem listening to her and her advice but when I stated that I would think about what she partially said and thanked her for her input, I'm assuming, she didn't like that response and attacked me personally. She didn't even truly know me and what she knew of me is what information I allowed her to know about me. She began to verbally attack me, and though my reaction may have not been the best because I retaliated by posting her comments for public display. Looking back I regret that because I was hurt and angry that someone could be so cruel.
I recently came across someone, I'll call her KM, who has had a similar experience. KM is also battling cancer and a stem-cell transplant. She has posted pictures and a video of her journey. She recently discovered that someone basically stole her identity by using her pictures and video as a way to get money from people. This individual was reported and hopefully that is the end of it. KM posted about what happened and truly didn't have a problem with her pictures and video being shared as a way to share her experience but to use her media for another person's gain is not tolerable. Some people were offended by this which I truly don't understand. Some people used that as an opportunity to say hurtful things to her. I just don't understand how someone could be so cruel to someone, but also especially to someone who is fighting for their life.
Then there are the people in your community that have knowledge of something going on in someone else's life and begins to cast judgment and say cruel things because they may not agree with it. Well, who are you to say what is right or wrong for someone else? Just because it is something that you may or may not do in your life, doesn't mean it's right or wrong for them. You don't know what goes on behind closed doors and that that person only picks and shares what they want to share. Your not living their life and you don't know all of their situation.
There are many blogs and websites out there that people begin because of something of "significance" has been or is currently going on in their life. Many begin to express their thoughts and feelings to help them cope and heal or just to educate others of the normalcy of their situation. I'm not totally naive to know that there are also many that ridicule and chastise others and I'm not speaking of those. I'm speaking of the afore-mentioned where there is no judgment, no chastising, etc. They are just trying to tell their story and then are "verbally" attacked.
Why can't we just listen more? Why do many feel the need to "verbally" attack another just because their beliefs are different? I know that it's just not limited to social media but many aspects of life. This has been an issue since the beginning of time and we may never find a solution.
Today, I'm just venting my frustration of the "ignorance" of some people. I'm venting my anger and frustration over the cruelty and ignorance of some people towards those who are going through a difficult time in their life, whether its financial difficulties, difficulties in their relationship(s), and/or health issues, the last thing they need are the cruel judgments and statements by others.
What I'm trying to say is before you cast judgment or speak ill of someone, remember you have not walked in that person's shoes. You do not know everything about that person and their life experiences. Look within and at your own "misgivings" and work on those because no one is perfect and there may be someone looking at you the same way and saying hurtful things. Remember how that makes you feel and do you honestly want to make someone else feel that way just because you don't agree?
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